I don’t know if you can relate to constantly feeling like you are loosing the battle of the ever elusive work-life balance? I used to feel so guilty all the time… I either felt guilty about spending too much time on my business and not enough as a mum OR when I took a break from my business and focused on my family life, my inner ambitious woman, felt massively side tracked. The end result was frustration and pain… until I finally decided to diss balance and work towards harmony instead. Lisa Nichols introduced this idea to me, thank goodness.
Balance is a state of equilibrium. There is no life, no vibrancy, no movement. Balance says that every part of my life deserves an equal share. Let’s back up for a second: equal share. So with that in mind it means that I should spend 8 hours at work, 8 hours on my personal life and 8 hours sleeping (and yes, I’m not even taking into account the fact that you are a mother, a lover, a daughter and the many other roles that you have) Not an easy target to hit. So how would harmony work instead?
James Arthur Ray describes harmony spot on: “Think of a jazz band in action…The performers in this band have less to do with playing the melody as written and more to do with improvising. They give life to nuance and the music takes shape in the moment. That’s harmony. The different parts aren’t balanced – sometimes the saxophone leads. Sometimes it’s the bass, or the drum or guitar. Whatever instrument is out front at the moment, they’re all contributing, all creating the amazing thing called music. Each musician plays his part of a magical, magnificent whole.”
So harmony is all about wholeness and inclusion. Harmony allows you to take all aspects of your life, fully integrate them and invite them to play together so that you can feel happy, complete and fulfilled. Harmony allows you to adjust for the natural ebbs and flows in your life. It creates the opportunity for you to show up and fully taking advantage of every moment, without the guilt trip. It’s no longer about how much time you spend on each area but what you do with the allotted time. How would your connection with your family change if you decide to put away the phone, turn off the TV and actually interact with them for a couple of hours each day? Wouldn’t that be worth more than a whole day spend together fully distracted? Or maybe you are at work, how much would you achieve if you were fully focused on the task at hand instead of thinking of what you need to buy at the grocery store, the argument that you had with your husband or any of the other millions of things that we can distract ourselves with? So really it’s not about how much time you spend on each aspect of your life but how you choose to show up. A variable fully within your control. Phew!
Let’s take some action Jackson. Put 2 things in the comments that you are going to do this week to show up more fully then you have previously have. I would love to hear.
Let’s get inspired. Together.